I need advice/help with a friend!!?

(This is my 6th version as I still haven’t yet found an answer to all my questions. Sorry if this is annoying you but if it is then please just leave this question.)



Ok so first of all, I'm 16 and am a junior in high school (11th grade), and I have a friend (let's call him Jacob) who we've been friends since elementary school. He's a boy by the way. Anyways I have just noticed he does not hang out with any girls. He's also a junior and is 16 (maybe 17). He doesn't even have one friend who is a girl and hangs out with all guys. I also noticed he never tries new things such as the school musical, the school play, or school events such as homecoming. When I asked him to go to Cinderella he said, no and acted immature saying he can't watch sexual content (which I'm pretty sure he's making up). Also with the spring play, he saids he hates plays, when in doubt I doubt he has ever even been to a school play or a school musical. I recently have gotten interested in my two favorite book series Harry Potter and Twilight. When I told him about Twilight and said he should read it all he saids is "twilight is gay!” and when I told him about Harry Potter he saids he tried the 1st book and didn't like it. When I asked him how far he got before he stopped the book, he said he didn't even get past the first chapter.

Also I play an online game Runescape, and he plays it too. Sometimes we have flirting contests where we flirt with some players in Runescape. My character is a girl in Runescape by the way but again I am straight and like girls. Whenever we do have the flirting contests, I flirt with some guys for fun but he never flirts with any girls on runescape except my character.

He does seem a bit immature even in our lunch table.



In 7th grade and in freshman year he would never answer me when I asked him does he like girls. Recently (like last month) I asked him again does he like girls and he actually said yes, and told that he never answered that question in 7th grade and he said "well that was 7th grade" and said also he wouldn't answer that question in 9th grade and he got all upset and said "does it really matter?" In 7th grade he was very immature and always teased me about if I'm gay. He never seems to notice girls at all, not even one, he could be in a Victoria's secret fashion show and he probably wouldn't even notice one girl.

Ok so why I originally created this was because I noticed a lot of things I'm getting interested in he hates which I feel we might of went our separate ways or grow apart because of that. I still want to be friends with him! A friend to talk about some of the stuff I'm getting interested in like the musical, Twilight, and girls.

Here are my theories on why he doesn't have interest in girls yet

A) He is gay; now if he really is gay, I will still accept him as a friend, I have nothing against gay people. Some of the evidence fits together and makes sense, but I could be wrong and don't want to jump to conclusions. When I look at him, he gives me a smile more than just a friend smile, like a girl would if she thinks you like her, or if she likes you. Do any of you have friends like that? Maybe that's his normal happy smile he gives to people. But if he really is gay, and he likes likes me, what should I do because I'm not gay, but I don't want to hurt his feelings or ruin the friendship. In 7th grade, we sat together in a group with another kid at lunch, and he really teased me a lot about if I’m gay. To me even though I don’t think or know if gays have common physical appearances, he looks like he might be gay from his physical appearances.

B) He isn't allowed to be interested in girls because of his religion or his mom won't let him. Now I don't know what religion he is, but he does do some stuff people at my schools don’t normally do. For example he doesn't celebrate Halloween because of his religion and every Sunday he goes to this place where his church is that's at least 2 hours away ( I think) and spends the whole day there. I also don't know fully what type of parent his mom is, but she seems pretty normal. Do any of you know moms who won't let their sons have interest in girls? Maybe he was telling the truth when he said his mom won't let him watch sexual content. But if that is the case, wouldn't his mom have to block almost everything. I mean even a kids show like Spongebob has sexual content in the episode where Mr. Krabs falls for Mrs. Puff. Also even if that was the case, wouldn't he still be able to talk to girls and have friends who are girls?



C) He is a very late bloomer. Me I'm a late bloomer myself but I've started noticing girls in Sophomore year and I thought I was a late bloomer myself. That may be also because I have a late birthday (November 1st) and am one of the youngest kids in my grade, tI need advice/help with a friend!!?
first,you need to examine your sely and ask that big question,do i love jagob and that might answer your questions.if the answer is yes,let him know and if he rejects,then i am sorry to say he could be gayI need advice/help with a friend!!?
dude simple........... If your theory (A) is right.... I have nothing to say as it explains everything...

But i don't think so..... I think its a mixture of theory (B) and theory (D).... He definitely is shy when it comes to girls,..... May be he doesn't trust girls... May be he doesn't know how to behave when girls are around... May be he is a Muslim........ Any ways all said and done he is still your friend so don't let him off or think bad about him at any cost.........