I need help with a friend! What do you think of him?

ok so first of all, I'm 16 and am a junior in high school (11th grade), and I have a friend (let's call him Jacob) who we've been friends since elementary school. He's a boy by the way. Anyways I have just noticed he does not hang out with any girls. He's also a junior and is 16 (maybe 17). He doesn't even have one friend who is a girl and hangs out with all guys. I also noticed he never tries new things such as the school musical, the school play, or school events such as homecoming. When I asked him to go to Cinderella he said, no and acted immature saying he can't watch sexual content (which I'm pretty sure he's making up). Also with the spring play, he saids he hates plays, when in doubt I doubt he has ever even been to a school play or a school musical. I recently have gotten interested in my two favorite book series Harry Potter and Twilight. When I told him about Twilight and said he should read it all he saids is "twilight is gay!". and when I told him about Harry Potter he saids he tried the 1st book and didn't like it. When I asked him how far did he get before he stopped the book, he said he didn't even get past the first chapter.

Also I play an online game Runescape, and he plays it too. Sometimes we have flirting contests where we flirt with some players in Runescape. My character is a girl in Runescape by the way but again I am straight and like girls. Whenever we do have the flirting contests, I flirt with some guys for fun but he never flirts with any girls on runescape except my character.

He does seem a bit immature even In our lunch table.



In 7th grade and in freshman year he would never answer me when I asked him does he like girls. Recently (like last month) I asked him again does he like girls and he actually said yes, and told that he never answered that question in 7th grade and he said "well that was 7th grade" and said also he wouldn't answer that question in 9th grade and he got all upset and said "does it really matter?" In 7th grade he was very immature and always teased me about if I'm gay. He never seems to notice girls at all, not even one, he could be in a Victoria's secret fashion show and he probably wouldn't even notice one girl.

Ok so why I originally created this was because I noticed a lot of things I'm getting interested in he hates which I feel we might of went our separate ways or grow apart because of that. I still want to be friends with him! a friend to talk about some of the stuff I'm getting interested in like the musical, Twilight, and girls.

Here are my theories on why he isn't doesn't have interest in girls yet

1. He is gay; now if he really is gay, I will still accept him as a friend, because some of the evidence fits together and makes sense, but I could be wrong and don't want to jump to conclusions. When I look at him, he gives me a smile more than just a friend smile, like a girl would if she thinks you like her, or if she likes you. Do any of you have friends like that? Maybe that's his normal happy smile he gives to people. But if he really is gay, and he likes likes me, what should I do because I'm not gay, but I don't want to hurt his feelings or ruin the friendship

2. He isn't allowed to be interested in girls because of his religion or his mom won't let him. Now I don't know what religion he is, but he does do some stuff people at my school don't normally do. For example he doesn't celebrate Halloween because of his religion and every Sunday he goes to this place where his church is that's at least 2 hours away ( I think) and spends the whole day there. I also don't know fully what type of parent his mom is, but she seems pretty normal. Do any of you know moms who won't let their sons have interest in girls? Maybe he was telling the truth when he said his mom won't let him watch sexual content. But if that is the case, wouldn't his mom have to block almost everything. I mean even a kids show like Spongebob has sexual content in the episode where Mr. Krabs falls for Mrs. Puff. Also even if that was the case, wouldn't he still be able to talk to girls and have friends who are girls?I need help with a friend! What do you think of him?
You seem to be unconsciously trying to live his life for him by forcing him into a commonality with you as the price of your friendship. So far, he has shown a reluctance to conform to the behaviors you've set and there could be reasons for that you are not yet aware of. He is what he is and you are what you are. It would be wonderful if the two of you would just accept your respective differences and move on with your friendship. However, most in their teen years would find that difficult to do.



Realistically, it may be best if you would just admit that to yourself and seek the companionship of those who already possess the interests you wish him to have rather than trying to change him into what he so obviously doesn't wish to be.



If the roles of this scenario were reversed and it was he trying to change you by insinuating himself into your beliefs, I am certain it would be you gravitating towards an attitude of resentment in reaction. Let the mystery be as to why he thinks the way he does. There is probably more to this story than readily meets the eye for all involved in it.